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A Message to Fellow-Bloggers: Haters Are Gonna Hate


Frank Viola offers some good advice in his latest post.

If you are making an impact on people’s lives, you will . . . (not might) . . . attract haters.

So if you don’t want any haters in your life, don’t speak, don’t write, don’t blog, don’t podcast . . . oh, and don’t breathe.

And if I may add, don’t be intimidated by haters.

So what’s my point? Haters are gonna hate. Period.

What can you do?

1. Ignore them.

2. If they start spewing their hatred and lies on your blog or social media pages, ban them.

3. if they are on your email list, remove them.

And then forgettttabbbbouuttit (yes, that’s one word). Don’t give them another thought. Because these people are designed to distract and discourage you from your mission. And for every hater, there are 50 – 100 people who love and appreciate you.

Now, someone may say, “but what about critics who should be heard?” Haters are befuddled abusers and they are NOT the same as people with integrity who provide constructive criticism based on truth and accuracy. Not even close.

I’ll also add, pray for your faceless hater. And then, as Frank said it, “forgettttabbbbouuttit” and rejoice! 

“If the world hates you, know that it has hated me before it hated you” – John 15:18

 

14 comments on “A Message to Fellow-Bloggers: Haters Are Gonna Hate

  1. I haven’t attracted haters much. Hmmm.

    • Only cause you’re so sweet Micey🙂

      And also because, unlike some of us, you stay away from the more controversial topics. ahahaha!

      Seriously though, be glad you don’t get them Micey. I’m glad you don’t.

    • I don’t have to write about them because you do such a good job of it that I get all the latest right here! 😊

    • Thanks Micey!🙂

    • To be quite blunt, many ‘christians’ are rude, ill-mannered, and overly aggressive, make idiotic statements and go red in the face and get angry when someone asks them a question they can’t answer because they don’t know their bible. Naturally, they get ‘disliked’ but rationalise it away as “Oh, this is happening because I’m being persecuted’. There is an adage in social welfare which goes something like this: “People with a persecution complex (ie think everyone is persecuting them) usually are, and they usually deserve it”. We are told be ‘fishers of men”, and you don’t catch fish by attempting to bludgeon any you see floating by in the stream of life with a club. Different fish need different bait, you need to pick the ‘right’ spot to fish from, and you need to chose the right time of day.

    • Its true that some Christians can act in that manner. Recently i entered into a little ‘side conversation’ with someone who said basically the same thing, under a topic at Charisma. What i told them was not everyone we interact with on the internet who claims to be a Christian, necessarily is. That we need to keep this in mind when entering into discussions at boards, blogs, or websites: especially Christian ones.

    • I would much rather be known by my love for others than for winning some silly argument and being right.

    • Me too Micey.

  2. Perhaps just illustrate, I’ve been witnessing to an elderly man who for his WHOLE life has been engaged in the spiritualist church movement. He told me ( and I’m not being boastful about this) that without exception all he had ever got from “christians” was a “you’re going to hell’ message, and that I was the first christian he’d ever been able to have a sensible conversation with. Now, how did I meet this man? Well, I was reading a book down in the park by the beachside, he came up to ME, and started talking – and the first thing he said was “You know, I never see anyone reading books these days, especially one that thick” and we got talking. It turns out that this man had an utterly tragic experience as a child at the hands of ‘christian’. Its also not co-incidence that because of my own specialised knowledge of the occult I understand such people. I ‘knew’ immediately I met him that he had been engaged in occultism for a long time (that’s one of things the gifts of knowledge and discernment are for) – and we are meant to use them. God treats everyone as unique individuals and has compassion because he understands every experience in a persons life, and what has ‘shaped’ them into the person standing in front of you.

    I think its called “being lead by the Spirit”… so… throw the ‘intentional evangelism’, ‘the intentional friendship’ nonsense into the garbage bin where it belongs. As an aside both the Mormons and the Jehovah’s Witnesses have been practising ‘intentional friendship’ techniques for over 100 years, with a spectactular lack of success. (the two combined only amount to about 3% of ALL people who self-define as christian on a world-wide basis)

    • Amen andronicus, it is being ‘led by the Spirit’.

      It appears the Spirit brought this man your way for a purpose, which you are fulfilling. Praise God. I think many of us fail to understand being ‘led’ by the Spirit. Especially when it involves witnessing and evangelizing. There have been occasions when i’ve known the person was lost but the Spirit urged silence on my part. If we’re not careful to listen, and wait upon the Holy Spirit before “plunging in” we can do more harm then good.

    • Sadly, I’ve encountered this type of ‘Christian’ on the streets as well. They take one look at your appearance and decide you are damned. Scary to think who is the one who may be really damned to hell.

  3. Oh No! Does this mean that if I meet Micey in the street we will be scared of each other! Looking forward to meeting Micey hopefully wearing Gothic gear complete with numerous silver chains and celtic crosses one day, while I’m out on walk wearing dark robes clutching a black wooden staff, on my way …. ???

    Our Lord invented ‘theatre’ and ‘special effects’ too. I have enormous admiration for the deft way he can create mass panic and sheer terror amongst large crowds with a bit of ‘natural theatre’, that turns out not to have actually hurt anyone.

  4. to both PJ and Micey – Seriously though, beiing ‘led by the Spirit’ only works if beforehand you have ‘total commitment’ to doing whatever it is the Lord has asked you to do, regardless of whether it is ‘pleasant’ or ‘unpleasant’ task. It is much easier to do the things for God that we ourselves like doing, not so easy when you ‘don’t like’ what he is asking you to do.

    Sometimes our Lord will ask you to do seemingly ‘insignificant’ things and for one reason or another we ‘don’t do’ them… However what can really be going on is – the Lord is ‘testing’ you. “If you can’t be trusted to do even this small insignificant thing for me, how on earth can I ever trust you with anything important” ? – that is the unspoken question He is asking.

    And your own actions and choices reveal the unspoken answer you gave to the unspoken question.

    When you stand before Him at the time of judgement, every single one of all those many ‘seemingly insignificant’ answers you gave will be brought out for all to see.

    ‘Being lead by the Spirit’ involves testing and trials too. Our Lord can give us much, but then can require much more of us in return.

    • True.

      And the outcome or evidence of one walking daily in the Spirit, (being led of the Spirit) will be the fruit of the Spirit.

      16 Live by the Spirit, I say, and do not gratify the desires of the flesh. 17 For what the flesh desires is opposed to the Spirit, and what the Spirit desires is opposed to the flesh; for these are opposed to each other, to prevent you from doing what you want. 18 But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not subject to the law. 19 Now the works of the flesh are obvious: fornication, impurity, licentiousness, 20 idolatry, sorcery, enmities, strife, jealousy, anger, quarrels, dissensions, factions, 21 envy,[e] drunkenness, carousing, and things like these. I am warning you, as I warned you before: those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.

      22 By contrast, the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, generosity, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against such things. 24 And those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. 25 If we live by the Spirit, let us also be guided by the Spirit. (Galatians 5)

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